Part Six: Perception/Appearance- specifically to stop caring about what people say/think

7 ways of overcoming negative self-image- Part 6.

How to stop caring about what people say/think?

Well, actually I do not think you stop caring what people say or think. Because if you completely stop caring about anyones opinions then you lose self awareness of your strengths and weaknesses which in turn hinders your ability to grow.

I think you can stop placing importance on what people think of you rather than stop caring what people think of you.

As humans, we over complicate this concept. Perhaps due to society, expectations and generally feeling we have a duty to fit into society or behave in a certain way. I am not sure exactly why. But I do know it is unhealthy to place high importance on people rather than on yourself.

What happens to your self-image when you care about what people think of you?

You become addicted to people's opinions.

The reason so many people struggle with negative self image is because they overvalue positive reinforcement.

We value peoples opinions too much.

To stop feeling like you have an appearance or an expectation to maintain is to understand true happiness comes from a relationship with yourself and a higher power whether that is a God or on a spiritual level.

Acknowledge that there are many differences in how we all view the world, how we view people and how people view you.

Your mind can be limitless when you stop giving importance to others opinions of you.

You decide what you want to attract in your life and life becomes exactly that. Not immediately, not in a few years. It happens when you have made the decision, that peoples opinions do not and will not ever affect your self image. Because by saying this, and faithing it. You have spoken this into existence.

All the negative feelings, sadness, pain and self hate must be acknowledged first because as soon as you acknowledge it and separate this from peoples opinions of you. You have opened a door to allow yourself to grow into a place of positive self image.

Letting go of the picture of what you think you should be like and learning to find joy in the story you are living now. That is your truth.

How do you stop caring about what people think and rationally process peoples opinions of you?

Firstly, who are these ‘people’? Is it a family member, best friend, colleagues, school friends, mutual friends, just someone who think they know you, strangers?

Define who is important in your life. The relationships you value, the relationships that bring love and joy to you. They are the people you should listen to their opinion of you but not get attached to it. Be self aware as we must be able to listen to criticisms to grow but it must be constructive. If it is only criticism and negative feedback, it is irrelevant for personal growth.

So how do I create a wealthy looking positive self image?

Understand that opinions always change. Peoples opinions change every day of you.

If you constantly care about opinions, you'll be in a forever cycle of self doubt. If somebody truly spent time with you and understood the real you, their opinions will still change everyday. You will lose who you are and what you are all about if you place too much importance on opinions.

You become what you think about. So choose to think about what you think, not what others think.

This is how you stop caring about what people think of you, this is how you get that one step closer to a positive self image.

So whoever you want to be, you are that person now. Change your language.

Visualising positive opinions of yourself will in turn allow you to behave exactly that way. So believe it now that you are creative, you are growing and you are doing your best. You will in turn behave creatively, keep growing and be self-loving.

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